A common mistake people make is to take things for granted and believe they are in control of everything and driving the show 100 percent. The truth is that whatever it is you believe in, God, the spirits, a higher power, there is something bigger than you that has a plan for you and making things happen. Yes you need to make EFFORT and do the work that takes you towards your goals. The rest is going to happen naturally.
What this means is that when something good happens to you it's important to be grateful and to appreciate the gifts and good fortune you have been given and that come through you. When someone tells me what a fantastic therapy session they had with me I have to remind myself that despite the work I put in over the years, it is also my gift that I have been given and I am a channel to share this with others, its not fully my creation and doing.
This practice of moving the ego aside will help you to relax and let go of holding on so tightly, trusting that good things are supposed to happen to you and will happen to you just because you are loved by the universe.
We are so programmed to control every thought and action that we can miss subtle connections and gifts that have already been sent our way. This week I invite you to notice something positive that you have attracted into your life, then let go of the grip and allow yourself to explore it without expectation. Welcome the things around you that you already have and notice when something new is edging in.
1. Authentic Connections
The ego often pushes us to show a version of ourselves we think people will admire. This ‘show' can create superficial relationships that lack depth. Letting go of the ego allows us to be authentic, honest, and vulnerable—qualities that are vital for genuine connections with others. When we're not preoccupied with appearing perfect, we create space for real intimacy to come in.
2. Less Stress, More Joy
The ego thrives on comparison and competition. In dating, this can look like constant self-criticism or obsessing over whether someone finds us “good enough.” By dropping these ego-driven thoughts, we can free ourselves from unnecessary stress. Instead of worrying about how good we are, we can focus on enjoying the moment and building a connection based on mutual respect and shared values.
3. Better Communication
When the ego is in charge, we may feel defensive, unwilling to accept blame, or eager to “win” an argument. This mindset often leads to conflict and misunderstandings. Letting go of the ego nurtures humility and empathy, making it easier to communicate openly and resolve issues constructively.
4. Freedom from Unrealistic Expectations
The ego often clings to idealised notions of what love “should” look like. This can lead to disappointment when reality doesn't match the fantasy. By being aware of this ‘trick', we can appreciate relationships for what they are, imperfect but beautiful journeys of growth and love. This shift in our attitude reduces frustration and increases gratitude.
5. Self-Love and Inner Peace
At its core, letting go of the ego is about recognising that our worth isn't tied to external validation. When we let go of the need for constant approval, we cultivate self-love and inner peace. This not only makes us happier but also makes us more attractive to potential partners. After all, confidence and contentment are deeply magnetic qualities.
letting go of the ego isn't about making yourself small; it's about letting go of fear, comparison, and unrealistic expectations. By embracing authenticity, humility, and self-love, you create a fountain for happiness that will enrich both your personal life and your relationships. In love, as in life, the less we're ruled by our egos, the more joy and connection we'll find.
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